We hang out together every weekend, and I enjoy being with my friends more than going on a date with
someone I just met — that’s why I think I will be not actively looking for a relationship in the next few years,” she added.
Coontz said one reason people are waiting longer to get married is because more of them, es
pecially women, are going to college. Even after graduation, most people want to wait until they have paid
off at least a good portion of their college debt and acquired a steady job, she said.
Two earners are increasingly necessary for people to establish a middle-class lifestyle, so mos
t individuals want to make sure that they and their partner have decent earnings prospects.
“Another part of the answer is that our expectations of marriage — especially women’s expec
tations — are much higher than in the past, and their options outside marriage are greater,” said Coo
ntz. “So, they can be more ‘picky’ about their mates, and they can afford to wait until they find one who suits them.”